Buachaille Etive Mor taken at the weekend from the banks of the River Coupall.
Photography courtesy of Neil McDade, https://www.facebook.com/SpectacularScotland

The king was deeply moved and went up to the chamber over the gate and wept. And thus he said as he walked, “O my son Absalom, my son, my son Absalom! Would I had died instead of you, O Absalom, my son, my son!”

2 Samuel 18:33 (NASB)

There is no definition that quite describes the nature of grief very well; many have tried and produced their own definitions, but grief affects everyone differently. As I write this I am reminded of when my own mum was promoted to Glory, to be with her Lord. As you may know yourself life never fully prepares you for such trauma; my mum’s passing changed life beyond anything I could imagine. On a plus side I know I will meet her again in the Gloryland. 

Our text comes at the end of a heart rending story in David’s life, when his son Absalom had plotted and tried to replace him as king. If things had worked for him Absalom would have had his father killed. But things did not work well for Absalom, costing him the kingdom and his life. Yet here we see David mourning the death of his son, despite his wicked plans. In our verse we witness the deep grief of a father for his son. As I read this I was brought to think of our Father God’s grief for His Son as He died willingly on that cross at Calvary. As David knew that his son’s death had to be, so did Almighty God know that His Son’s death was the only way to bring redemption to humanity. We cannot begin to fathom the depths of grief of our Father God on that day.

Dear reader, as His children through the sacrifice at Calvary and the resurrection from garden tomb we are amazingly privileged. We have a small glimpse of His grief through our own experience of it in life. We also suffer the loss of dear ones who choose to desert Him, and leave His family. This has sadly been a recent experience for me. In any grief we can only follow the guidance of Peter:
casting all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you.(1Peter 5:7). In this He hears our cries and will comfort us each day.

17 thoughts on “Grief

    1. Yes, while an individual has a heartbeat Christ pursues them at every opportunity before it is too late. We play our part in this by sharing and praying, even for those who have walked away from God. God bless you and your family Donna.

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  1. Grief…yes such a hard thing to understand as we experience and process it so very differently.

    My grandad had what seemed like a very cold attitude to death.

    That’s it, move on.

    But he fought during WWII and lost many friends, and all his brothers….his perspective didn’t make him cold, as I first thought. But his matter of fact approach makes sense, in context.

    Andy B

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    1. You share a valuable point about the generational difference in the approach to death; I recognise what you say in my parents and grandparents before they died themselves. Although the added advantage of being a child of God certainly reduced the fear for my saved family, and soothed the loss for those they left behind. Certainly the experience of WWII hardened many people to the pain of death. I think today’s generation has a lot of fear over death through spiritual ignorance, but that is my own opinion.

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    1. Good day Pete, I love this song, it speaks so much of our earthly ending, grief and our future hope with Him. I recommend CityAlight music, it is very much grounded in scripture…the best place to be for sure!
      God bless you and lead you today brother, Amen 🙏


  2. Alan, this is an important message, as all of us WILL be touched by death at some point in our lives and thus experience grief. That journey will indeed be different for each of us. Yet with Christ, there is HOPE.

    The experiences of people appearing “cold or hardened” about death may more likely be a coping/survival reaction due to the heavy losses they endure. Aside from individuals in military combat like you and Andy shared, people who experience high exposure rates to death due to their profession i.e. doctors, nurses, paramedics, law enforcement, hospice workers, etc. must develop a means to cope. That may look different than the general population who are less exposed in number.

    There is HOPE in Christ! God bless you.

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  3. I know this sadness, Brother. I take courage in the words, “The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.” 2 Peter 3:9
    Blessings, Alan!

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    1. Yes, grief is inevitable in this world.
      I pray that God would guide you in your pastoral work regarding grief, making you wise on what to say, when to say it and, when to just listen. AMEN. 🙏

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